This is just to say massive thanks to everyone for listening and commenting. I took all your advice and internet-hugs to heart, and it has helped me to cope the past two mornings, when there was a giant fight about whose toothbrush was whose (REALLY?) and today, refusing to walk.
It seems obvious, doesn't it, that it would be something about
school? And yet Boo seems to love school, by all accounts, and is almost
always cheerful, if tired, when I pick her up at the end of the day.
She's never said anything negative about school aside from complaining,
after the first day, that they don't get naps. And my gentle prodding
and flat-out asking if anything at school upsets her goes nowhere. She's
not a kid who generally plays her cards close to the vest, so I have to
think I'd know by now if there was something going on. All the same,
conferences are next week and I'll be asking about her classroom
behavior and any overall issues in the room.
Not seeing her dad on any regularly scheduled basis isn't helping,
although why that should cause specific morning meltdowns I'm not sure.
The girls do see him quite a bit, but various circumstances right now
mean that we don't have a set two-afternoons-and-every-other-weekend
schedule, or any variation thereof. And that's not good for either of
them, so I do what I can to make sure everyone knows at the beginning of
the week what's going on.
Then there's the fact the Mimi *is* doing so well. Boo has seen Mimi
overreact and go nuclear on many an occasion, and now she sees her
basically doing what I expect of her in the mornings. So it's possibly
delayed reaction/imitation to something that's proven attention-getting?
Will be trying to make more of a point of spending one-on-one time with
Boo, as much as possible, although that is more difficult these days
with the girls on the same school schedule and my work schedule being
what it is.
Anyway, I have some ideas. And just putting it out there, and knowing
that others have been through it and are pulling for us, helps me cope.
I forget what a relief blogging is. It doesn't matter how many comments
I get on a facebook post, it's not the same thing as sitting down and
spilling my guts onto the keyboard and getting all this virtual love in
return. I really must try to do this more often.